Ubud Death Cafe

Death Cafes are held all over the world. A moment in space and time to reflect on death in a safe and open-minded space.

How we feel about it, our personal experiences, our hopes and fears.

I am a trained Death Doula (death companion) and run these events to create a safe space for us to speak freely, without taboos or awkwardness, about a sacred – and maybe terrifying for you – moment that all of us will face one day. Or to share openly our experiences of others dying and how we really felt, not how we thought we were supposed to feel.

Just come with your heart and soul. Exact venue tbc, somewhere in Ubud. Suggested contribution of 50k Rp will go to community projects. Get a ticket

As prep you might be interested in this meditation to develop our relationship with both life and death. 

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Deep Relaxation Sundays (yoga nidra / yogic sleep)

This is a relaxation practice that requires you to lie on your back on the floor (like you do at the end of a yoga class), as comfortably as possible – use several cushions and a duvet or blanket – to create yourself a cosy space. As you lie there I will guide you through your Yoga Nidra session.

Benefits reported by those participating in Yoga Nidra include

  • relief from physical or mental pain
  • increased creativity
  • improved ability to rest the mind, less frenetic mental activity
  • a sense of coming home to your true self
  • increased self-empowerment
  • peace, contentment, bliss

In this one hour weekly class there will be time to ask questions and raise any concerns as well as to experience a Yoga Nidra session. You can attend a single class, and you may find it more beneficial to have a regular attendance.

If you cannot make the time of the live session, you can order a recording and listen in your own time. You may also want to do both.

Tickets available from Eventbrite

Chakras

Live Life in Full Color is now available on Amazon.

The following companion videos are available either to watch along with the book or independently. They demonstrate a few yoga moves for each chakra. Scroll down for the full series

Chakra Awareness : a guided meditation to become aware of and develop appreciation for your chakras<

Root chakra : our foundation. Source of strength and vitality

Sacral chakra : our life source, the generative source of our appetites

Solar plexus chakra : our guts, our courage, our source of strength. The fire in our belly.

Heart chakra : our centre of peacefulness, generosity and a sense of abundance. Let’s open our hearts.

Throat chakra : the all important connection between our heart and our mind. Your opportunity to speak your truth

Third Eye chakra : where we envision all that we can be. Try these movement and breathing exercises to sharpen your vision.

Crown chakra : our connection to the universe, to our human unity, Relax and open to all that is beyond the life we know here on earth.

Integration : The 5 Tibetan Rites work with all 7 of our chakras to integrate and balance our whole being.

Chakra Activation : a short breathwork sequence to balance and tune up all of your chakras so you can live life in full color

FreeTreat 2020

FREEDOM RETREAT

A 21 day experience, freely available, just for you.

Being surrounded by uncertainty and fear can start to affect us, generating stress in the body that doesn’t help us cope or feel better – and can cause both physical and mental health problems.

We may be stuck with the corona virus – but we still have a choice over how we react and how we feel.

See if these daily short videos (ten minutes) which include relaxation techniques, some simple movements, and reflections help.

Click on the link each day to join the journey or follow my channel and do please share your reflections in the YouTube comments

VIDEOS

Desert Winds Retreat

A one off special retreat into the Berber lands of the Saharan desert.

Travel with our local guide as he shows us the land of his origins south east of Essaouira, towards Mali and Algeria. Learn about the Berber way of life as your mind expands with the vast landscape and infinite starlit skies. Wide open space for wide open inspiration.

Camels and campfires, peace and expansion.

More info coming soon.

2020 Dates: Oct 20-24

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Re: Treat

Some days it just all feels a bit much. The job, the kids, the post, the traffic. Yet another meal to think about. Or another thing to fix. Another deadline to worry about.Or maybe you’ve just come through a hectic period and want to reset.

Breathe.

You can restore

Our Re:Treat is designed for you to treat yourself. To peace, to space, to fresh air, to fresh vegetarian food. A light sprinkling of yoga and mindfulness activities. No pressure.
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Step back in time in the medieval medina to a world without cars or neon signs. Without chain stores. Without fast food. A world of human connection and blue skies and endless wild beaches.

We will hold the space for you. Create room for your true self to re-emerge. Your head to clear. Your heart to open.

Join us and feel the breeze gently blow away the stresses and strains of every day life. Max group size 6.

What’s included

  • Accommodation (in shared room or pay extra for single room)
  • Breakfast and evening meal (vegetarian)
  • Morning yoga and meditation class
  • Evening yoga and meditation class

What’s not included

  • Transport to the retreat
  • Lunch
  • A busy daily schedule of activities… this is YOUR time to get back to yourself. Feel free to lounge on the terrace with a book, ask for advice about local cafes or shopping, learn to kite surf, paint a picture, write a poem…

Optional extras

  • 90 minute energy healing session
  • Accompanied trip to local hammam (women only steam room, body scrub etc)

2020 Dates

  • Jan 21-25
  • Feb 4-8
  • Apr 28 – May 2
  • Oct 6-10

What to expect

Morning light in Essaouira filters through the shutters of your spacious, comfortable room. Usually sunny. Can you hear the town starting to come to life? The barrows rumbling along the car-free alleys? The seagulls circling the returning fishing boats down at the harbour? The call to prayer? A child laughing?

Hold on to that magical sense of possibility as you slip on some comfy clothes and join us in the yoga room. A moment of peace. We will meditate and enjoy some gentle yoga to wake up our bodies and calm our minds. Don’t worry if you are new to yoga, I will explain everything and the emphasis is on YOU and what your body needs.

After time for a shower and getting dressed we will meet downstairs for freshly squeezed orange juice and breakfast. I am happy to answer any questions and help where I can – basically the time is yours. To grow, to unwind, to create… go where your heart takes you.

Later we will gather for early evening supper (unless you want to try one of the local restaurants – just let me know)  and, at around 9pm our end of day yoga and meditation.

Here’s what previous visitors have had to say

I haven’t slept this well for over a year

I haven’t felt so calm and – well – normal! for ages

I feel like I’ve been here for weeks. I feel completely at home

Wind Power Retreat

So you’ve made it. You’ve got the job, the house, the car. It’s all looking good. You have done well.

And now you’re thinking maybe there’s more. Maybe there are ways to be a more authentic leader. To be more open-minded. More inspiring. To go beyond the logical and explore your intuition, your unique story, your greatest value. To grow from who you already are to who you can be.

Spend 4 days with us. We will use the power of the wind to get back to your core and deepest wisdom. Your GPS. Using a combination of creativity, reflection and cultural challenge we will work together, a small high level group open to going beyond.

We’re not saying ditch your career and spend the rest of your life kite-surfing (though Essaouira is a great place for that too!).  But we do invite you to take a rigorous look at yourself and see how you can be more aligned – enhancing your well-doing and well-being. Increase your power by standing strong.

2020 dates for Wind Power Retreat

  • Nov 3-7
  • Note that this retreat can also be run on demand for your team
What to expect

This 4 day retreat will take place in the Winds of Change retreat centre in Essaouira, Morocco. Where even in winter there is an average of 6-7 hours of sunshine a day. In the protected space of the centre we will have privacy and calm to explore our deepest hopes and fears. I will guide you through a series of activities, with plenty of time for reflection, resting and sharing. We will begin and end each day with 30-40 minutes of reflective breathing, meditation and gentle yoga poses (no prior experience required).

What is included
  • accommodation in shared room (single supplement £475)
  • activities 9am – 5pm Wednesday to Saturday (early finish Saturday for 6pm flight)  including a hike along the wild beaches and ancient argan tree forests south of Essaouira
  • vegetarian breakfast and lunch
  • water, tea, coffee on demand
  • dinner on Tuesday and Friday evenings
  • transfer to and from Essaouira airport
What is not included
  • travel to Essaouira, Morocco
  • transfer from other airports (though we can arrange this for you and you pay the driver)
  • evening meals on Wednesday and Thursday

Wind Power Retreat

A 4 day deep dive retreat for senior executives who are ready to go beyond all the success they have had so far to discover their deeper sources of power. Click on the paypal button below to pay and fill in the details below.

£1,875.00

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Inspire Expire Retreat

In Western society, we have developed a strange attitude to death. You may be one of the people questioning it. In a world where natural ageing is seen as a kind of weakness, to die can be treated like the ultimate failure. As this research shows, most of us don’t like to talk about death and only a handful have thought about how they would choose their own death to be. In London for example, more than half of people die in hospital even though most of us say we would prefer a home death (only achieved by about 15% of those dying at age 85 or more).

Those who dare to explore the idea of death – yes even their own – discover rich rewards. From my own experience, I know that the thought journeys I have taken as part of my death doula training (with pioneering organisation Living Well Dying Well) have been a significant factor in life choices I am now making. By understanding and accepting our mortality we tap into an appetite for life that can lead us to review our priorities and make some fundamental changes.

I am lucky enough not to be suffering from an illness. I am fit and healthy from a family of long living women. I fully expect my own death to be some way off,  though of course none of us knows for sure. Maybe you are the same, or maybe you have reasons for more cautious predictions. Maybe you are caring for an elderly relative or dying friend. Or grieving for somebody you have lost.

Whether your motivation is living your own life the way you want to, or coming to terms with death, I hope you will enjoy me on our 4 day journey into the wonderful world of death and life. It will be a joyous one, a touching one and may just change your life as much as it changed mine. 

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What to expect

This 4 day retreat will take place at our Winds of Discovery retreat centre in Essaouira, Morocco. Where even in winter there is an average of 6-7 hours of sunshine a day. In the protected space of the centre we will have privacy and calm to explore our deepest hopes and fears. I will guide you through a series of activities, with plenty of time for reflection, resting and sharing. We will begin and end each day with 30 minutes of reflective breathing, meditation and gentle yoga poses (no prior experience required).

What is included
  • activities 9am – 5pm each day including an outing to the wild beaches and ancient argan tree forests south of Essaouira and a visit to the local hammam (optional)
  • vegetarian breakfast and lunch
  • welcome dinner on first evening
  • water, tea, coffee

 

 

What is not included
  • overnight accommodation (there is plenty of great accommodation available on airbnb, plus hotels. I recommend choosing somewhere in the medina so it is easy for you to walk back and forth)
  • travel to Essaouira
  • evening meals
2020 Dates for Inspire Expire Retreat
  • Nov 17-21
Cost

The cost for the first evening plus 4 days is £750 per person

Book below! Only 8 spaces per retreat.

 

Inspire Expire Retreat

A 4 night retreat in Essaouira, Morocco using an honest look at our death to enhance our life

£750.00

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Are you wasting my time?

Queuing. Patience. The art of just sitting. Africans can do it. Middle East and North Africa can do it. We not only are t very good at it. We also rail against it. Cramping at the bit. Twitching and stressing.
Probing further, I realise we take it as failure. If we had done something differently (arrived earlier? Been better prepared? Chosen that other queue? Not changed queues? ) maybe we could have avoided this. What was the flaw in our strategy? Our actions? Should we have been more charming or more insistent with the first person in the process?
In another frame of mind we might rage against the machine. These petty bureaucrats with their pointless procedures. This damn country! This stupid town! (Whichever country or town we happen to be in at the time).
I notice too that it is recent. I remember my grandmother had this skill. To sit patiently in a hard bAcked chair. Hands on her lap. Not reading the paper or looking around. No phone to distract her as I have now, writing this as I queue.  She had that ability to wait patiently. To trust all will be well. Sooner or later.
The very last thing we seem to do – I seem to do – nowadays is accept the situation. It is what it is. Some things take more time than we allow for. No!!! I have do much to do. Every second is precious.
What if we take that wisdom. Treat the waiting seconds as precious. I have been told that the existentialists stand in pointless queues just so they experience that heightened awareness of the seconds passing. This is part of our life this second. And the next. So maybe instead of feeling tension as we waste our time we sometimes embrace it as a gift of time. I’m going to try!